7 ways you can escape feeling frustrated
Lagos mornings sometimes can be full of comedy and laughter, trust Lagos drivers there’s something about these danfo drivers (big yellow buses) that would crack you up other times full of the highest form of crazy drama you don’t expect, you need to be prepared at all times.
It’s been awhile here just can’t say why I stopped but I think I’ve been overwhelmed lately listening to Amanda Elo’s my life continues everyday podcast makes my mind travel to when I initially moved to Lagos, the struggles, life so far, and I’ve come to adopt the heart of gratitude knowing that a small move is still a move, even though it’s not as expected.
I know how it can feel when it looks like you’re not achieving your goals as you’d want to or even for some they’ve abandoned it because their chasing after financial stability or job security and trust me when you live in a city like Lagos, you can almost be carried away by the hustle.
How do you escape the thoughts of feelings frustrated?
1. Ask yourself why you are feeling frustrated is it something that you have control of at the moment?
The first step to try to bring about change or solve a problem is to find out the reason why it’s there in the first place and attempt to offer a solution. Asking yourself this question helps you to be honest to yourself. Why do you feel the way you do? Is it something that’s in your power to change at the moment? How can you cause the change?
If it’s something that’s not in your control at the moment then you keep working towards it or you let it be it’ll sort itself out or better still you can pray about and you’ll see that you find peace.
Most of the things we worry about as young adults now will all work out and it’s a matter of time, so pause, breathe and take life as it comes and keep moving forward.
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2. Look around you and find something good that has happened or is happening.
Having a positive mindset helps you see the pros more than the cons. Look around you, what are you grateful? Who are you grateful for in your life? Friends, family, your partner? What good thing has happened to you so far? The process of thinking about these questions and finding answers to them alone helps you feel more grateful and happier for the things you have.
Oftentimes we are so blinded and complain so much of the things that are not working that we forget to notice the onces that are working, the moves we’ve made, the progress we achieve. Yes! When you do a reflection you may see that there are so many goals you are yet to achieve but you’ll find out there are some you’ve ticked off your list. Those who are grateful in life get more out of life.
3. Write out things you are grateful for each day
Journalling can never be outdated, you can get a dairy or download an app (there’s an app for everything these days) and consciously write down things you are grateful for in your life. Using an app actually helps because they come up with varieties of questions. You’ll feel less burdened after doing this task everyday and you’ll start each day with a lighter heart and a better attitude.
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4. Remind yourself that this is only a phase.
After you’ve written down all the things you are grateful for, have a talk with yourself, I often do this, I talk to myself to help me understand the things happening around me and to comfortably come out of it unscratched.
Remind yourself that this is only a phase and session that while last for a period of time. Give yourself these reassurance so that you don’t have to worry or panick that things aren’t working out. As for me I mostly read my Bible and reassure myself with the word of God and I let him speak to me and I also ask him to take away the things I feel and it works like magic, God is interested in every tiny part of our lives.
5. Believe that it will get better
After you’ve done this reassurances believe it, saying a thing and actually believing it are two different things, be so confident about the things you’ve said to yourself to the point that it no longer matters or hurts. The Bible tells us that those that come to God must believe that he is, and when you do, knowing that he answers prayers and can do exceedingly more than you can think of, you’ll not doubt his word about you or your situation.
6. Surround yourself with people or things that make you happy
We magnet the energie of the people around us that’s why it’s important to be careful of those we keep as company. People who would encourage you, give you a listening ear, remind you that you are more than your problems or situations, who would cheer you up and always find away to drag you out of your room or comfort zone just to shake the feelings off, trust me it helps your mental state.
Do the things you are passionate about, do the things that you love to do whether it’s to draw, paint, dance, learn a new language, learn a musical instrument, go on outings, go to the movies, travel etc do the things that make you the happiest.
7. Never compare yourself with anyone’s progress
This is the utmost joy killer, Never! I repeat never compare your progress or live with anyone’s life, it sucks out all the joy and optimism and keeps you feeling frustrated and unhappy with yourself.
Remember that social media doesn’t show the whole truth, people only show you a glimpse of their happy life. Remember that our journeys are not the same, we all weren’t presented with the same opportunities, we all don’t have the same foundation and family backings, some of us had t fend for ourselves and fight for our dreams even when no one was pushing or motivating us.
There’s uniqueness in your own journey, embrace it. When you finally achieve the things you wanted to, you’ll be grateful that you believed in yourself.
